So, women readers, how many of you have ended up in a bedroom situation that was All About Cock? A quick and non scientific survey (of my friends) suggests that at some point many women have experienced sex with little or no attention paid to their pleasure zones and an expectation that penis in vagina sex is the main event. A quick google of sex tips will repeatedly let you know that taking it slow and plenty of foreplay is key.

In Straight Man Porn, our writer Jeff (Marcus Quillan) has been commissioned to write some erotic short stories. In Episode 1 - Not All About Cock - Jeff starts to question the storylines that seem to pop up naturally in his head. A mainstream classic cock-led scene of a man fixing the plumbing and then having his way with a hot girl is revealed to be what it is - a story focussed on just one person's pleasure. In this scene, Jeff concentrates on pleasing his partner, Yiming Curiosity, and this raunchy kitchen encounter is all the hotter for this approach.

Much of mainstream porn provides us with a narrative that women get turned on at the lightest touch, and can climax easily through penetration. Of course most porn isn't designed to be educational, but these man led scenarios filter into our reality for several reasons. For some, porn is the first sex that they see, so depending on what they happen to watch this can suggest all sorts of unrealistic things. From how long sex should last, how big a normal cock is, what vaginas look like and what women find pleasurable.

A study by Middlesex University commissioned by the NSPCC and the children's commissioner for England, concluded that teenagers were at risk of becoming desensitised to porn. The researchers questioned 1,001 children aged 11 to 16 and found 65% of 15- to 16-year-olds reported seeing pornography.

Worryingly, more than three-quarters of the children surveyed - 87% of the boys and 77% of the girls - felt pornography failed to help them understand consent, but most of the boys (53%) and 39% of girls saw it as a realistic depiction of sex. If this is how teenagers understand what they are viewing, then we have to question how many of these ideas we take into our real lives as adults.

The rise of technology and 24/7 access to porn of all kinds means that we all have a responsibility to think about what we are viewing, as well as question the narratives. Watching porn can be pleasurable, fun and a great way to explore your sexuality. As well as giving us plenty of fun ideas to try in the bedroom... As I explored in Why You Should Pay For Your Porn, where your content comes from is of utmost importance. Supporting ethical studios that are responsible about portraying consent and inclusive of different bodies, as well as treating their performers fairly should be the norm.

When it comes to sex, everyone's pleasure is important and everyone should be having a good time. As shown by Marcus and Yiming in this scene, taking things slow and having the woman choose when she is ready for cock will definitely be a good start for anyone wondering how to make things Not All About Cock. Take things slow, communicate, focus on mutual pleasure and it will just be all about 'When can we do that again?'

Stay safe. Have fun. Issy x