Love it or hate it, unless you put yourself on full internet detox and remain at home or head away for a silent retreat somewhere remote there is no escape from Valentines Day. A simple trip to the supermarket can really be enough to make you feel unloved, like you aren't doing enough, or simply that you aren't enough.

If you love Valentine's Day then I am sure you have already thought of plenty of fun things to fill your time on 14th February, and this article is not for you. If you're one of those who just can't stand it, or it gets on your nerves somewhat, here are some ideas for both singletons and partnered up people to actually enjoy the oft dreaded V-Day...

Rule Number 1 - You are enough. You are loved. You are worthy.
Extra points for those that find a mirror and say 'I am enough, I am loved, I am worthy' to themselves.

Rule Number 2 - Remember that it's just another day.
If you care about it and you have the capacity to be upset if your partner doesn't live up to your hopes and expectations, or if you're single and feeling that nobody is interested in you, remember that despite the consumer frenzy going on, lots of people don't do anything. Lots of people don't care. Don't believe the hype and don't get sucked in. 

Do... Consider some self love. 
Make some time for masturbation. First thing in the morning if possible. Starting your day with an orgasm is guaranteed to have you in a positive frame of mind. 

Don't... Spend too much time on social media. 
This is the place for people who love Valentine's Day. If you're not one of them, unless you like fawning over all the romantic things that other people did, not for you, then limit yourself. Or even have a detox. A V-Tox. Trust me there is nothing worse than seeing both sides of the giving of two dozen red roses, a cuddly toy, a dinner out and who knows what else, I couldn't see for the crying. If you have great self esteem, approach with caution. If you feel a bit wobbly avoid at all costs. 

Do... Treat yourself.
Anything from a long bath and a face mask, your favourite dinner, a new sex toy. If you're coupled up why not exchange massages? If you're single give yourself a foot rub. Watch a film you love with delicious snacks. Masturbate. 

Don't... Put pressure on yourself to do anything. 
It used to be that singletons could mope at home, now we have Galentine's and other excuses created to go out. If that's your thing, then great, but remember, forced fun isn't normally fun. 

Do... Have a chat about expectations before Valentine's Day, if you're partnered up. 
Yes I know this can take away from surprise elements, but a simple conversation to test the waters is a good idea. One partner making lots of effort while the other does absolutely nothing generally doesn't go down that well. A simple 'What do you think about Valentine's Day' will tell you a lot, and there is no shortage of excuses to bring it up blaring at you via advertising and social media. Even in long term relationships, lack of communication and different expectations can lead to hurt feelings and arguments.

Do... Message or call your friends and family to tell them how much they mean to you. An hour spent reaching out, especially after the past two years, is a gift to you and others that will keep on giving. 

Do... For the bargain hunters reading - head to your local supermarket the next day to pick up the cheapest and lushest flowers that you normally would NEVER treat yourself to. Get a couple of bunches and make yourself a beautiful bouquet. Tell yourself 'I am enough, I am loved, I am worthy.' 

Stay safe. Have fun. Issy x