Tips to take your self love to new levels of pleasure...   

Masturbation can be an extremely rewarding part of your self care routine. Focussing, concentrating just on yourself and taking unapologetic me time. Exploring your body. Getting to know more and more what turns you on. Being able to show those deeply personal pleasure tricks to a partner. Encouraging and nurturing your self love - the emotional one. Oh, and orgasms of course. Beautiful, solo climaxes with nobody else to worry about, gifting you with a whole range of health benefits.

I hope that masturbation is a regular part of your routine. 

Routine. Hmm. There is a dangerous concept. After all, what do we associate with that? Same thing, over and over. Getting up to go to work. Boredom. All of these things can be true, although a wee designed routine can actually free up your time, although that's a subject for another day.

"If you think adventure is dangerous, try routine. It's lethal." - Paul Coelho

We can all see where Paul Coelho was coming from with this quote. And when it comes to regular masturbation, we can be our own  worst enemy in some ways. It's not our fault, we are only humans and our nature is often to get things done in the quickest and easiest way possible, so that we can get onto whatever else it is we think we want to do.

This is certainly true in the bedroom. Relationships stagnate from repeating the same time tested techniques. Masturbation becomes a little boring. Another task on the list. 

However, with a minimum amount of effort, you can really enjoy maximum rewards sexually. There are plenty of ways to change up your self love routine, just a bit, which will soon have you making time for yourself. After all, rushing is never fun. Let's not rush. Although I suppose if your thing is getting away with a quickie somewhere then time is of the essence. But for the rest of the time try some of these super simple tips to really explore what is possible with pleasure.

1. Set the scene. Yes I know you've heard this before, but trust me, feeling yourself up on your messy bed with washing that needs sorting and charger cables everywhere just can't be compared to indulging in some personal time on a bed that's made in a softly lit room. That's bare minimum by the way, a bed that's made and lighting that doesn't make you squint. Pretty minimal right?

2. Porn. We are visual creatures and watching something that gets you feeling wet can fast track you to multiple orgasms. Gone are the days when porn was cock-centric scenarios with no care for women's pleasure. You have a huge range of all types of porn out there, as well as our delicious library of films, check out this list for some other ideas, all ethical. Make sure you pay for your porn. For a more in-depth look at exactky why this is so important, check out this previous post.

3. Erotica. This can be written material or audio. Again there is a huge range out there and if you look around you will most certainly find something that tickles your fancy. 

4. Sex toys. Not just one boring old vibrator. A range. Seriously, a lot of very driven people have spent a lot of time and money on developing all sorts of devices that will have you sweating and shaking with delight. All I am going to say is don't miss out. You might think that plain cock shaped vibe that you've had forever is getting you off quite alright, thank you very much, but trust me, it's not. There's a time and a place for awesome cock shaped sex toys, but we are just starting to really understand women's pleasure zones, and there's toys that make use of this knowledge with mind blowing results. I personally love toys that can be used handsfree, like these.

Have a look here and here for some inspiration...

5. Change up your position. Yes, I know laying on your back with your head on a pillow is comfortable, but give yourself a chance to see what else might get you going. Try laying on your front (especially good with a handsfree toy or with a pillow under your hips), sitting on the side of your bed, in the bath (waterproof toys or fingers only please). On a chair with your legs spread wide. Kneeling with a pillow between your legs. Laying on you side for a solo spoon session. And you don't have to confine yourself to the bedroom, of course be mindful of other people (depending on your living arrangements) although flatmates about to come home could qualify for a naughty and frantic quickie in a communal area. If that's what turns you on.

Which is what this is all about. Finding out what turns you on. Exploring. Having fun. Taking time for yourself. Orgasms. I'd love to know how you get on or any of your solo tips that could bring more pleasure to our community, let me know in the comments or on Twitter if that's your thing.

Stay safe. Have fun. Issy x

This Discover is primarily aimed at women, but for our men readers, if you got this far then I have no doubt that you have picked up some useful gems of information... x

Pictured - Viktoria Quinn in TOUCH, which will certainly have you ready to indulge in some #JoyBearSelfCare